Talking to Children about Adoption
A child’s feelings about adoption are complex. They effect every part of his self: personal identity, self-confidence, and their understanding of who they are, and where they came form. Understanding these thoughts, feelings, and responses can be challenging for both adoptees and adoptive parents.
Being adopted can create many feelings of being different. Children need to understand that while adoption is wonderful, that it also involves loss and grief and that their birth parent’s decision to adopt was not about them. They need to hear their parents discuss their feelings about adoption. Children need age appropriate information about their adoption and it needs to be addressed by the adoptive family in a positive way.