Since 1989 Beacon House Adoption Services has been helping women find warm, loving homes for their babies. Birth parents often ask, what is the adoption experience like? There’s no one better to answer that question than the birth mothers we have assisted through the years.
Below you’ll find their stories in their own words. If you’re considering adoption, take a moment, listen to their personal birth mother experiences, and learn about the joys and challenges of the adoption journey.
My experience with Beacon House has been great. Ms. Margie was understanding that adoption is a very difficult thing to go through but she made me realize that what we were doing was the best thing for us and that we would be blessing a couple with a baby that could not have one for themselves. She made sure that all our needs were taken care of. If it wasnt for her, we would have been completely struggling most of the time. I would recommend Beacon House to anyone who might be considering adoption. Beacon House allows you to go through a few profiles and pick out your own parents. I thought that was wonderful because we felt like we had a say so in something. I would definitely recommend anyone who is going through with an adoption to meet Mrs. Margie because she was the most sweetest and caring person. She visits with you whenever she is in your area. She will go to the doctor with you to see how well your pregnancy is going. She understands how hard it is for anyone to go through with an adoption. Thank you Mrs. Margie and Beacon House for everything.
Amber and Robert
First, I want to start off by saying that Mrs. Margie is THE most wonderful person to have on your side when making this decision. I knew by the time I was four months pregnant that I was going to place my twins for adoption. I knew I could not take care of twins and my eight month old little girl. My next endeavor would be finding an agency. After talking to many agencies I came across Beacon House Adoption. I was able to choose a wonderful adoptive couple that now have my beautiful baby boys. This decision was not easy, but this agency makes it easier to cope with. Mrs. Margie and Miss Dawn were the best ever. They are the kind of people that you still want to talk to and keep in touch with. I get to enjoy pictures of my boys and letters from the adoptive parents telling me how they are doing. So thanks again Mrs. Margie. We love you!!
Dear Beacon House,
I just wanted to say Thank You so much for helping me in one of the most difficult times in my life. I came to you and you opened your arms to me with love and understanding. You showed me that even though life throws you a curve ball you can still hit a home run. By coming to you and going through the wonderful counseling and everything you had to offer I made it through a rough time. I love each and every one of you!!! I feel such good feelings when I think about how happy I made the Mother I chose for my child. I feel confidant that he is GREATLY LOVED and provided for. It has been almost 13 years and I think of you all everyday and thank God that he brought you in my life when I needed you. I say a prayer for you all and I miss you. Thanks again for your support!
In February of 2003 I found myself pregnant. At that time I was 36 years old and my two children were grown. I was going through some very hard personal struggles and the last thing I could handle was a new baby. A friend had gone through Beacon house a few years before and told me to give them a call, that they would help me.
I looked them up on the internet and read all that was there. I wrote and asked for information, and the next afternoon, Margie called me. We talked and right away I felt better. She put me at ease and assured me that it was MY decision, the whole thing, beginning to end. I was sent an information package for me and the babys father to fill out. I sent back the information and waited to be matched up with parents for my child. I was a little worried because I had special medical needs and although the effects on the baby would be minimal, it was still something that had to be taken into consideration for the couple waiting for a baby. The day came that Margie called and told me she had parents that wanted my child and from there it all came together. I flew to Baton Rouge, had a nice apartment to stay in and all my needs were taken care of. I was taken to the office and met the others that are part of the agency. They are all wonderful, warm, caring people. Any questions I had were answered and the counselor they arranged for me to meet with was great. I really liked her and she helped me a lot. Not just with worries about the adoption, but with problems I was having with the childs father. We did not have a healthy, stable relationship and there was no way I was bringing a child into that mess. When I went into labor Margie was there with me holding my hand. At one point I asked her if she called to tell the parents that the baby was coming early and she said if I wanted her to she would. I said CALL THEM. They were so excited.
The parents that I was matched with are absolutely wonderful! Margie did an awesome job matching us up. I made it clear from the start that I wanted this baby to be a first child for a couple starting their family and thats what I got. I know with out a doubt that this couple loves this child just as much, if not more than if they had made this child themselves. They have a large extended family that welcomed this child into their hearts. Its just wonderful. I know that perspective parents go through a process that is very strict and several home visits from social workers. It is a long process and not all couples are accepted into the program. Margie does a wonderful job in matching parents to babies, its like she has an intuition that tells her which ones would work out for the best.
I have made mistakes in my life that I cant fix, but for the rest of my life I know I made the right decision when I called Beacon House.
“To the Beacon House,
I want to start by thanking Mrs. Margie; she is absolutely the most kind hearted person I have met in the longest time. She was there for me in each and every way possible during and after my pregnancy.
I can’t begin to tell you the path I traveled, before I found the Beacon House. Through them I was able to find the perfect parents for my child; that to me is the most important this in the world. I also want to thank everyone else that helped me through the most difficult time of my life: Dawn, Jessica and Anne.”
“Hi, I just wanted to say Hello and to let you know how life has been since we left your wonderful program. We learned a lot from our time in Baton Rouge and had met so many wonderful people. We are so grateful for your program and the people in the program. If it wasn’t for you we would not be where we are today. Knowing that our children were placed in loving homes and that we got the help when needed at a time we needed it the most.
Since leaving, so much has happened. I finished school, C has gone on to have a great career in computers…We are in the process of buying a house and we have 4 beautiful children. We are finally a family, we have gotten over all the rough patches with our parents and family. Even when we sat in Ann’s office and talked, it never seemed life could get better and that we would ever get over giving up our children. But I guess the saying is true, time heals all.
We truly believe that adoption has been the best thing for us, and we wanted to share with you our happiness. We just wanted to let you know how much we appreciate everything you did for us and to let you know that we think about you every time we look at our children and see how far we have come and how much we are able to do for them now. You are in our daily prayers, God bless you for the work you do for the women and families that go through your program.”
D & C
Dear Adoptive Parents and Birth Mother,
At one of the most trying times in my life, when I did not know which way was up and had nowhere to turn, the staff at Beacon House Adoption Services was there for me with an attentive ear and an open heart. Soon my unborn child and I were content knowing that these wonderful ladies were looking out for us and paving our way to a wonderful future.
Never in my wildest dreams did I think that I would find myself in the position of having to choose between my own personal feelings and the welfare of a newly formed life. Now as I look back I know that I made the right decision by allowing Beacon House to place this wonderful baby with an adoptive family sent from God.
Three months ago I gave birth to a beautiful baby boy. With the support and guidance I got from Beacon House, I found the most wonderful couple to be his parents.
Margie and Anne let me know that I was not alone. They helped me through the hardest time in my life. I could never have made it through without them. They are truly a gift from God.
Thank you for giving me all the love and support I needed.
Hi, My name is Sandy and I would like to take up just a moment of your time…[edited for length]
…let me tell you why I decided to be a “Birth Mother”…I thought I met the man of my dreams…became engaged about a year later. We had the date picked, the dress bought, the place rented, everything!! I found out about a month later we were pregnant…we moved up the wedding so my dress would still fit and we could kind of keep it a secret, everything was going great, right? Wrong! My fianc had problems, he was very jealous, and at the time I thought getting married would change everything…Well nothing changed it only got worse, he even thought one time that the child I was carrying wasn’t even his. Well one Saturday I asked my fianc if he would go to the store and get some milk, and my whole life changed forever! We had an argument and he pushed me up against the dresser and then tried to turn our queen size bed over on top of me. I can put up with a lot but when it comes to physical abuse you’re gone!
So I guess you think that I became a Birth Mother because I was scared for my life? NO – Just think about it for a second: single mother, one child already, no child support, and only $12.00 an hour coming in and that is only a 40 hour work week, I don’t make overtime. I had a new home I had worked so hard for, a new car, and I loved my job, hell it’s all I know how to do now. So I decided that it was time for me to make a decision so I called Beacon House, and that is where I found my new best friends that I will remember for the rest of my life! They told me to remember that no matter what, this was my decision and my decision alone, no one can decide this for me.
…I knew that this was what I had to do and what I was going to do, but dealing with it every day was very hard and stressful. I had people coming up to me in the stores saying “So do you know what you are having?” “I bet your little girl is happy” “So when are you due?” And what I had to do was keep my head up and answer the questions the best way I knew how. Now let me tell you that once you make this decision don’t think it won’t change very day because it does! There were nights where I was pulling my hair out…and this went on the whole pregnancy.
Well, the big day was here now I was going to have my baby. I went to the hospital…a nurse…asked all those questions that I didn’t want to hear at all (you know, the ones I mentioned earlier) so that didn’t start things out well. Then it came time to go to the room to have the baby and you know what, the strangest thing happened, the nurse that was there…looked me straight in the eyes and told me “I” was doing a wonderful thing as I saw a tear come down her face, and then I started to cry but not because I was sad, but because I, at that moment, realized that this was really the answer for me, this was the right thing to do, and you know I was able to watch that baby be born, hold that baby and kiss him and smell him and even change his diaper and just the day before that I would never have thought I could have done that and been able to leave the hospital without him.
I get pictures of my son and he is smiling in every one of them. …I think about him every day and I still know in my heart that I did the best thing for both him and I. …just think of the most wonderful gift you are giving these people, it’s something no one else but YOU can give the chance for them to have a real dream come true – you are their ANGEL.
From Jill W.
My name is Jill [last name]. [Date] 1992 I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl I named Mariah Dawn. With the help of Beacon House, Miss [name] and Miss Jean, I gave her to wonderful parents.
As you can see by the name change, I have put my life together and have married a wonderful man and have another daughter. My life changed the moment these 2 women came into my life. They made me realize that I meant something more than just an object for men to abuse. I owe them more than I could have ever told them.
Again, thank you for all that you do.
From Jennifer J.
I’ve dealt with 2 adoption agencies and the service Beacon House offered to the birth mothers is by far the best, in my opinion, and Mrs. Margie was one of the main reasons it was so much easier. She really does have a heart of gold and Beacon House is lucky to have such an addition to their company. The weekly counseling sessions prevented any kind of loneliness through my stay with Beacon House, and they were extremely helpful in letting me know I wasn’t alone. So I also applaud Beacon House for that. There are so many things I loved about your company, the list could go on and on.
Call 1-888-987-6300 to speak with an Adoption Coordinator or complete our Confidential Inquiry Form. We know that this is a stressful time in your life as you make important decision about your future. Our Adoption Coordinator will explain the adoption process and is available to help you any way they can. Your confidential phone call or email will allow us to provide you with the information you need to make the best decision possible for your baby.