Lighthouse Thoughts

July 20, 2014

The Cajun Stork

In may of this year, we unexpectedly lost our Cajun Stork, Domestic Adoption Coordinator Margie Mathis, after a valiant battle with an extended illness.             Ms Margie started at Beacon House when her mother- in-law; who assisted Birthmothers, asked her to help “take care of her girls while she was on vacation.” She often joked […]

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July 17, 2014

It’s a Boy Thing

            “It’s just a boy thing” is a phrase I have often heard over the years. It’s often in reference to a multitude of parental concerns including injury at play, high activity level, impulsivity, organizational skills, and more. At the same time I have vehemently denied that gender is an […]

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November 28, 2012

Stress Reduction

Infertility, adoption, finances, these are all areas that can produce stress, but any form of physical activity can help you unwind and can become an important part of your approach to easing stress. A regular exercise routine not only helps mange stress but it can also help you get ready to carry around your new […]

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September 7, 2012

The 7 Core Issues of Adoption

I was recently thinking about how my teen and some of her friend’s life experience’s may effect there relationships, especially as they enter the dating scene. I decided now might be a good time to review the “7 Core Issues of Adoption” as described, Silverstein and Kaplan.  Many members of the adoption tirade describe these […]

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August 30, 2012

Parenting A Toddler

Approximately forty percent of all children adopted are toddlers between the ages of one and four. Adopting a toddler is not the same as adopting an infant or newborn.  Parenting techniques will be different depending on whether you adopt a younger or older toddler. His life experience and developmental level; not chronological age, will determine […]

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July 13, 2012

Moving Forward with Adoption

It’s not unusual to find one spouse ready to start looking at adoption before the other is ready.  During this time, it is important to keep the ones of communication open.  Acknowledge your spouses reluctance and discuss concerns openly and honestly.    If your spouse’s reaction is not what you had expected, they may need more […]

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May 9, 2012

Tips for New Parents

• Remain Calm, count to ten, and most importantly, and don’t lose your temper.• Learn the child’s native language. (This was invaluable.)• Remember your child is scared. Try to find ways to reassure and comfort him.• Don’t self diagnose or assume your child has a medical condition, developmental or behavioral disorder based on a short […]

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December 12, 2011

Getting Started with Adoption

Adoptions can be accomplished with a variety of help. Adoption agencies, attorneys who specialize in adoption, even unlicensed facilitators work with adoptive parents around the world. In order to assure the best chance of success and the least number of problems, adoptive parents must have guidance in choosing who they will entrust with helping them […]

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September 11, 2011

Grandparents and Adoption

     How do my parents or in-laws view adoption?  Will they accept him as part of the family? Will they view my child differently or treat her different than the other grandchildren? These are all legitimate concerns that prospective adoptive parents have. Even when grandparents are “on board” with the adoption of a grandchild […]

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July 21, 2011

Strong Enough to Overcome

Eleanor Roosevelt said that “ a woman is like a tea bag – you can’t tell how strong she is until you put her in hot water.” This is especially true if you put her in a position where one of the most fundamental elements of being a women are denied: motherhood and infertility are […]

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